Hello Lovely,
I feel the need to write a little on this rainbow filter that has been all over Facebook. If you have missed it, it is the effect of the USA legalising same sex marriage in all states. This is a pretty big deal and is long over due in my view and I am saddened that as an Australian, as yet I do not have the same rights in my own country.
I promise I will not turn this into a debate on same sex marriage, for me it just comes down to love is love and in all honesty, if I choose to marry, I will marry, with or without the consent of any government. But for so many it is so important.
Anyway, as you have probably guessed I am in a same sex relationship and have been for about 10 years. Prior to this I was married for 18 years. I have 3 beautiful children to that marriage and am very grateful for that. But I am sometimes asked what changed and "how did you just jump that fence?". So without going into too much detail, for me it comes back to 'love is love'.
When I got honest with myself, when I became more me, when I knew more of who I was and what I wanted in this life, this is what I chose. Was it the easy path? No. Well not really. In many ways, it would have been easier to stay where I was, do what was expected and continue down that same path. It was not all horrible, but I was being less and less me. This bit was not easy. It is never easy to be less authentic, less of your light, less of your truth. And that is what this was becoming for me.
So why am I telling you all this? Well my transition to a same sex relationship was reasonably easy. I was blessed with a loving and supportive family and friends who did not judge and allowed me to follow my heart. This was also true for my children. One of them did say "I don't understand, you used to love daddy and now you love Rachy" I simply explained that yes, that was true and daddy had a new partner too. To which the reply was "yeah, but your both girls!" For me that was an easy one. "I didn't love daddy just for his 'bits" and I don't love Rachy just for her 'bits'. Inside we are all God's angels and that is the bit of Rachy I fell in love with." And that was it. It really was that simple.
I do however wish it was that simple for all. It is not. Acceptance is something we all crave and for so many there is a fear of being rejected, unloved and unaccepted when they step into their truth and own who they are. This applies to many areas of our lives, not just same sex relationships. In my world this doesn't make sense. I am blessed and do not have this issue, so I am surprised and saddened when I see the struggle so many face. So put a rainbow on your page.
Put a rainbow on your page to say that it's okay. That love is love. That you will accept no matter what. It is not big, it is not hard, it may seems gimmicky, but to one who has had this acceptance, seeing my Facebook stream filled with rainbows made my heart swell with joy and love, so I can only imagine how it felt to those who have never had all that it represents.
It the little things that make all the difference.
Oh, and besides that, the rainbow colours are also the chakra colours, so what a cool way to balance your energy.
Fill your day with rainbows, love and hippy beads.
I know I will.
From my soul to yours
With love,
